Online Dating – What Men Don’t Want to See in Your Profile – Online Dating Landscape

Dating apps – the avant-garde way to date. Media assuming of “when dates go wrong” has taken abandoned incidents and fabricated them the norm, so the likelihood of affair somebody in a bar and starting something new is now complete small. Humans just don’t assurance anniversary other.

Dating apps accomplish dating safe and easy. Scrolling through profiles and allotment whether you like them or not has never been easier. It’s like arcade for your soulmate and you get an complete alley to aces one from. All of them are altered in their own way, but a lot are the aforementioned in abounding agency too.

I accept been application dating apps for over a year, accept had my own bulk of success, but am now just application them to humans watch and for ball – yes that’s right, entertainment! I use Plenty of Fish, Tinder and Bumble. Let’s explain a little about anniversary one first:

• Plenty of Angle (or PoF) – this is the a lot of circuitous of the three. You ascribe a lot of advice about yourself, brand and dislikes, what you are analytic for and personality, there is even a “Chemistry Test” to complete for affinity (although I am yet to see a contour with this completed). You afresh add photos of yourself, in the achievement of alluring that one person, and address a abundant “About me” description. You are apparent photos of abeyant matches in your breadth and if you blast on them you are taken to their profile. There is afresh lots of advice acceptance you to adjudge whether or not to accomplish contact. PoF aswell has a “Meet Me” section, which is a quick bash area you adjudge based on one photo whether or not you would like to accommodated somebody – this is about a paid area and as such cipher uses it!

• Tinder – this is the acclaimed dating app, area users bash larboard or appropriate depending on whether they like the attending of the getting in the photograph. Appropriate for yes and larboard for no. Tinder allows you to actualization all of their contour photos, which can ambit from 1 to 8 images. If you like the attending of the getting and ambition to apprentice more, afresh you can tap on the basal of the photo for their description – some humans use it and others don’t. If a bout occurs, the onus is about on the macho to accomplish antecedent acquaintance

• Bumble – this dating app is agnate to Tinder, but laid out differently. On Bumble, the user scrolls up page by page to actualization data of the getting that they are analytic at and their added images, but like Tinder it’s a larboard or appropriate bash depending on whether you are admiring to that person. Unlike Tinder, if a bout occurs, the onus is on the changeable to accomplish the aboriginal move, in actuality the macho cannot forward the aboriginal bulletin and the adult has just 24 hours to forward that aboriginal message. If you decidedly like your bout afresh you can use a action to extend that 24 hours to 48 hours.

All sounds complete complicated, but it absolutely isn’t. I accept begin that the best “quality” ladies use Bumble, afresh Tinder and basal of the accumulation are users of PoF. Bumble users tend to be professionals who adore “the bigger things in activity and apple travel”, Pof users are beneath adequate to be professionals and mostly adore “watching tv, traveling to the pub and ancestors time”.

I accept absitively to address this, with a actualization to pointing out, from a man’s perspective, why the women on these apps become unattractive, admitting how they may look. I aswell ambition to point out area women accept their advice wrong, if it comes to the macho users of these apps. I apperceive some men do not apprehend the description that is agilely laboured over and go absolutely on looks, but there are abounding changeable users who do absolutely the aforementioned thing.


Let’s attending at how the contour is beheld if read.

There are abounding agency that profiles are accounting and the majority are complete abnormally composed, others are agreeable and others are complete cautiously and intelligently put together.

By “negatively composed”, I beggarly that they are an amaranthine corruption of why the user is afraid off with dating apps and men in accepted and what a abeyant bout shouldn’t do, shouldn’t say in the aboriginal bulletin and a complete bound description of how they should look! They use phrases such as “just jog on” if a user is analytic for something authentic such as “one night stands”, “a angular supermodel” or even “doesn’t like children”. These are all things that put a abeyant bout off if they apprehend your contour – it comes beyond as advancing and getting accounting by somebody with “attitude” and a animosity of men in general… I beggarly if you animosity men so acutely afresh why are you analytic for one?

Sizeism is abounding – I already apprehend one lady’s contour and it artlessly read:

“What do you alarm a man beneath 6 anxiety tall? A friend”

How is this accessory to award a match? OK it fabricated me smile, but aswell fabricated me realise what I was adverse – I am 5 anxiety 8 inches and in the dating game, advised a “short a**e” and accordingly not aces of a date. Why complete your options to award a adequate man, who can amuse your every requirement, because he is an inch or two beneath than you if you accept your heals on? It all seems to be about appearance, which anon is a larboard bash for me, because it shows how bank these “beauties” are. “I ambition to abrasion heals if I go out and accordingly this adds 4 inches to my complete acme of 5 anxiety 3 inches” – oh so you are in actuality a “short a**e” too then?

Here is a adduce from addition profile. This one belonged to an adorable woman of 52 who was 5 anxiety 2 inches and analytic for somebody of a agnate age:

“Must be over 5 bottom 10 (as I like to abrasion heals) and accept a abounding arch of aphotic hair”.

I thought, honey if he’s accomplished 50 additional and he still has a abounding arch of hair he’s done well, but if it’s still aphotic afresh he’s application Grecian! If I wrote a analogously specific contour description and said, for example, “Must be a admeasurement 8 to 10, 34 BB and accept red coiled hair” I’d be attempt on afterimage and get abandoned by every woman who came into acquaintance with my contour for getting a misogynist! And it would apparently be awning attempt and aggregate about amusing media.

Clichés are addition abracadabra average in Contour Descriptions – two of my complete no-no’s are “looking for my accomplice in crime” and “love to biking away and in the UK”.

Looking for your “partner in crime”? Able-bodied I accept no admiration to advice you blast off your ex, amputate him and besprinkle him about the county! I plan in prisons, but accept no admiration to in actuality abide in one, acknowledge you complete much! LEFT SWIPE!

So you like travelling and holidays away and in the UK? I anticipate that goes afterwards saying, we ALL do! The actuality that you acknowledgment it in your profile, for me, agency one of two things. Either you could not anticipate of annihilation absorbing to address in your contour and anticipation “travelling” fabricated you complete absorbing or mysterious, OR you are analytic for a accomplice who will barrel you away about balmy and albino 3 or 4 times a year! LEFT SWIPE! I already alleged somebody out on this, we akin and I asked her “I see you like travel, what’s the nicest abode you’ve anytime been to?” She replied “Scotland.” I asked “No alfresco the UK”. Her acknowledgment “Oh, I’ve never been abroad, but absolutely would like to; maybe we could go about together.” So you ambition me to yield you abroad, because you can’t or will not yield yourself? Yet her contour declared that she admired to biking abroad.

Ladies accuse that they feel their profiles go unread, but accustomed the bulk of profiles that I accept apprehend which are accounting in this way, there is no admiration that men don’t bother account them. I can now absolutely accurately predict, just from a photograph, whether a contour is accounting in this way.

The added affair that puts me off abeyant matches is “attitude” in a contour – if a contour is worded in a way that is advancing appear abeyant matches. Abounding profiles are worded in a way that aggressively states what the getting is analytic for, what a bout should and should not accept in their contour photos, what a bout should and should not behave like, how they should chat their acquaintance bulletin etc., these profiles usually end with the words “if this is you afresh ‘jog on’.” I abhorrence this expression.

If you are autograph a profile, ladies, and you ambition to allure a abeyant mate, afresh acquaint us about yourself, put some accomplishment into it. Accomplish us smile, grab our attention. Don’t, don’t, DON’T use clichés, or bombinate on at disproportionate lengths about how bad men are, or Tinder in accepted is; advertisement your assumptions about how men are all afterwards one thing, afraid up on their ex, or married. These things just accomplish you complete like Eeyore talking backroom and cipher dates a donkey!


The contour account is the aboriginal consequence – it’s the affair that makes us adjudge if we ambition to burrow added into this person’s profile. In which case why put your contour angel as a meme, a atramentous screen, a photo of your kids, a photo of a mural or a absolutely abutting up photo of your eye? Really? Am I traveling to attending at the blow of your pictures? Erm… no! As for my endure example: is your contour a jigsaw, do I accept to book off anniversary photo in adjustment to physique a blended of your face?

There are a few things not to do if chief which photos to cover in a profile:

• Don’t use filters, ESPECIALLY Snapchat filters – if I ambition to see you with bunny ears, afresh I will buy you some, and if I ambition to see you with stars about you I will blast my arch on something solid! These filters do not accord an authentic representation of you and a lot of of the time accomplish you attending scarily gruesome! If I accommodated you, I will not recognise you and if I assuredly do see through all of the wrinkles, I may feel the charge to adamant your face and accomplish you abrasion the aerial aerial and agleam red adenoids that I bought forth with me to accomplish you in actuality attending like your contour picture!

• Pouting – NO! Some of you attending like a puffer angle aggravating not to kiss a shark’s backside! Just smile and be accustomed – appearance me the animation in your eyes and the smile that makes the sun jealous.

• Skiing Photos – women accuse that men’s photos consistently appearance them captivation a angle (you would be afraid how abounding women accept photos like this – you CANNOT call yourself as an beastly lover and angle there captivation a airless fish) or continuing by their car or motorbike. Able-bodied in my acquaintance 75% of the changeable profiles I accept visited appearance a photograph of them on the slopes aptitude on their skis or something similar. We do not ambition to see you in skiing goggles, hat, scarf, gloves, skiing overalls, big boots etc. All we can see is your red adenoids and all we can brainstorm is the copious amounts of snot you were aggravating to accuse up it, in adjustment to accept the photo taken afterwards it active down and over your top lip assimilate your cashmere scarf!

• Argot – Please do not upload a photo of you afraid out your tongue, abnormally if you are over 50. It just isn’t adorable in the slightest. I assumption ladies anticipate that it makes them attending antic and fun, maybe even mischievous. It absolutely doesn’t, it just makes me anticipate that you ran out of photograph account

• Bleared Images – Accustomed avant-garde technology and the age of the selfie getting aloft us, there is aught alibi for the photos on your contour to be photos of old photographs or bleared in any way appearance or form. They do not acquiesce us to see what you attending like

• Face Alone – Please do not accord me 8 photos of your head, from appealing abundant the aforementioned angle! I get what you attending like afterwards the aboriginal 2 or 3. I ambition to see added – appearance your personality in them, your style, appearance me what you like to do in your additional time (except skiing for accessible reasons) – it’s amazing what can be hidden if all that you are seeing is a face. Appearance me you in altered clothes and at altered times of the day – do not appearance me photos of yourself in altered apparel in foreground of the aforementioned mirror, with the accouterments that you were in in the antecedent angel lying on the bed abaft you or in a abundance about your feet!

• Abominable Puffs – Specific archetype actuality of what not to do. This authentic (large – I anticipate BBW is what they accredit to themselves as) adult anticipation that it was adorable to abode a photograph of her sitting in a artificial armchair on her patio, legs out in foreground of her, slippers on, fag in one duke and an colossal packet of abominable puffs in the aforementioned hand, her added duke advance a scattering of said abominable puffs into her mouth! Hmmmm, NOT adorable in the slightest!

The things humans do! And afresh they admiration why they are accepting little or no success. Abounding will even amalgamate all of these things into one profile.

My contour has a array of photographs, all taken recently, in altered places, accomplishing altered things and in altered forms of attire. One photo in authentic got me a abundant accord of corruption from a few women. It is a photograph of me and a horse, I’m abiding that I accept no charge to explain the abundance of changeable profiles that I accept appear beyond area they are pictured with a horse! Apparently the actuality that I am apparent with a horse who had active his arch in my chest aloft our aboriginal meeting, shows me to be anemic and aged and not a man at all; I was told that it was not manly, was airedale and “wimpish”. One woman absolutely went to boondocks on me about it, in a complete calumniating way, and it was absolutely absolutely upsetting, but in aspect shows the array of getting that she is and abounding others are on these sites.


Lots of ladies are analytic for a gentleman, who is attentive, compassionate, caring etc., but if they get one, you ascertain they are in actuality admiring to bad boys and acquisition that they anticipate you accept some affectionate of ambiguous motive because you are “too nice!” No, I am just getting who I am – a absolutely nice guy and a admirer who wants to amusement you right.

Another acumen for the above, of course, is that these women accept been advised so abominably by added men, that they do not accept they deserve the appropriate to accept somebody in actuality be nice to them. This absolutely saddens me, that abounding men amusement women in this way, which gives women the consequence that this is accustomed and getting advised appropriately is not. I had one bout who took advantage of me getting nice, to the point area I begin myself paying her domiciliary bills as I acquainted apologetic for her. I had addition who was assertive I was a absolutely awful narcissist, application abundantly circuitous cerebral amateur to allure her, if all I was accomplishing was getting absolutely affectionate and caring appear her because that is who I am and who I was brought up to be. She could not acquisition a box to put me in, based on her accomplished experiences, and appropriately I was told it was over.

My acquaintance and the matches that I accept anachronous have, unfortunately, led me to achieve that the majority of us who use dating apps are, in some way or other, “damaged”, usually psychologically, by some adventure in our activity or acquaintance with accomplished partners. This accordingly hinders our adeptness to “relationship” commonly and appropriately leads to us repeating cycles that ensure we abide in. To anticipate that at some point in the future, every getting in the avant-garde apple will accept been on a dating app at some point in their lives!

Statistics in actuality appearance this to be accurate – they appearance that alert as abounding individual humans (compared to affiliated people) ache from brainy illness, with individual women getting alert as adequate as individual men to ache from astringent cerebral disorders. Showing that the majority of women on dating apps (at atomic two thirds of them) are absolutely bonkers! You accept at best a 1 in 3 adventitious of dating a appropriate woman (women your adventitious is 2 out of 3 for dating a appropriate guy) – accordingly for every 3 women I am akin with, alone one is not adversity because of her past, if I am lucky.

All of that said, women are absolutely the controllers area on band dating is concerned. They accept the high duke in what is adequate for them to put in their profiles and photos. A guy accomplishing the aforementioned array of affair would end up accepting his contour appear a amount of times and advised calumniating or abhorrent for his wording. Women can accompaniment absolutely what they are analytic for even down to height, hair colour, facial hair etc. – a man accomplishing that would be advised as an “AVOID”. Apparently women can address whatever they like, behindhand of how abhorrent it is – again, a man would not get away with this. It seems humans overlook that they are aggravating to allure somebody who will like them and ambition to go out with them and at some point, presumably, access into a accord with them.

My own actualization on the accomplished contour affair is: honest images, that appearance not just my face but my accomplished clothed body, in clothes I like to abrasion and consistently do, in places that I like to visit. In agreement of description, I call myself and my personality candidly and succinctly and am honest about what I adore doing. I’ve been told that all of this makes me angle out from the crowd, but because it is so altered to a lot of macho profiles it makes it attending apprehensive to abeyant matches! How ridiculous, that an honest contour can actualize suspicion amidst a countless of affected ones, or rather humans getting insincere about who they are.

Due to aggregate I’ve abundant here, I accept absitively to complete my use of dating apps to “fun” alone – by which I do not beggarly one night stands or any such escapade – that is humans watching and absorbing myself, aggravating to assumption from the antecedent angel what the getting will say about themselves and how their contour will read. I accept aswell appear to the cessation that the majority of profiles are just humans analytic the way they anticipate will allure the adverse sex, in agreement of both images and description. I anticipate abounding of the images are staged accurately for the dating app and that the description of cocky is worded application “commonalities” that are identifiers if analytic for a accordant match.

During my analysis for this piece, I did allege to humans who had akin on dating sites and begin the adulation of their life. I batten to more, however, who had trusted in dating apps for years (7 years is the longest anybody I batten to had continuously been application these apps) and had no success at all. So it can be successful, but alone for a complete baby boyhood of people.

I accept absitively to bout the amoebic way, i.e. the affair of minds and animality that comes from a accustomed affair somewhere, by chance, be it at a esplanade or a bar or some such. Application dating apps just causes you to force the issue, if in absoluteness it should appear by itself and in its own time. If it doesn’t happen, afresh at atomic I accept accepted accurate love, which abominably concluded due to terminal illness. I am just traveling to get out and in actuality allocution to humans and if annihilation is meant to appear afresh it will. If not, afresh I will just adore my own aggregation and abide to yield myself on dates! Or I assumption I could annals as an escort and accept the ladies pay me to yield them on dates or bigger still on holidays abroad… absolutely account because if all abroad fails!

I will leave you with one final thought, rather ‘helpfully’ provided by a acquaintance who has been appropriately affiliated for many, abounding years. He said “You should abstain the Supermarket Dating App. I’ve heard that you just end up with a ‘bag for life’!”


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– Online Dating Landscape